One of the biggest fears we have about change is letting go of people that no longer serve us or encourage us towards our highest good. I know I have done that. I have held on to friendships and relationships that no longer served a purpose. It seems logical to us to be a bit afraid of the dark, a place of unknowing. We want to be secure in what’s next before we let go of what was. But what this does is hold us captive to unwanted experiences. It’s like trying to sail with the anchor dropped. At one point, the anchor served a purpose – holding us steady during a storm or keeping us in a tranquil, peaceful place while we enjoy it – but when it’s time to keep moving, when we are ready for new adventures and experiences, that anchor holds us back or slows our process. And eventually will wear down our engines.
People in our lives can do this too. They hold us stationary in who we used to be when we feel to pull of becoming who we are meant to be. We know, on a deep level, that even despite the fun we may have had with folks or the love we have received from them that it’s time to move to the next level of growth in our lives. We know that these people and these experiences are not who we are supposed to be. We are used to these people, the know us and accept us and love us – but they are not a part of the next portion of our journey through life.
We see the signs. We know that these friendships/relationships are not serving us but we resist letting go. We hold on and are held in place. Eventually we held hostage by relationships that are now eating away at us. We find that we experience a growing level of discomfort with these people. We may argue more or find ourselves making choices that don’t align with who we are becoming. As time continues, we find ourselves loathing interactions we once loved. This happens because the distance between who we are spiritually and who we are physically (personality self) is growing and the greater the distance the worse we feel.
I learned this weekend that the moment we let go of what doesn’t serve us, is the moment we allow what does serve us to enter our experience. We start catching up with who we are spiritually and we again have joyous interactions with a new set up people/places/situations. The moment we realize that it is much better to become who we are destined to be, we allow all the things that resonate with what is best for us to come into our lives.
And this doesn’t mean that we don’t still love and appreciate those who have come before – they were a part of the journey. They are the reason you have grown to this point and are ready to face new challenges.
This also doesn’t mean that you won’t have an opportunity to reconnect with them down the road. The separation is not just for your growth, but theirs as well.
I encourage you to let go of what is holding you back. Release those people and activities that don’t align with your life goals. As my horoscope read today “you can no longer tolerate – without very ill effects to yourself and those around you – relationships based on your pretending to be someone you’re not.”